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2020.03.01 13:14

I give too much attention to people that are in a bad place in

life. I’m motivated to help them, but really we can only ever help ourselves. I’m learning to redirect my energy towards positivity.

Recently, I met a girl on HelloTalk and she literally cried to me about her life for hours, and I tried to make her feel better. She blocked me in the same day. This isn’t the first time I’ve found myself in this loop. Life is meant to be played for fun. It’s not my responsibility to solve the world’s problems... yet ;)
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  • thatiane 2020.03.01 13:20

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    Make this your mantra and everything will be ok ♥️

  • C.V.P 2020.03.01 13:26

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    Complicate it

  • C.V.P 2020.03.01 13:26

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    Ops, complicate

  • C.V.P 2020.03.01 13:27

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    Quis dizer complicado, hehehe

  • soukaina 2020.03.01 13:34

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    You can comfort people, but of course you can't solve their problems

  • ꧁Carla ❀❀ 2020.03.01 13:42

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    I think you should inform yourself about something called "codependency", that's what happens to you. I move away from negative people, because I understood this that you wrote in your post.

  • Mariana Santos 2020.03.01 13:43

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    It's true, but in my opinion we can only help someone, if they really want it... Many people prefer to victimize themselves than change their lives.

  • PuellaVitae 2020.03.01 13:45

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    Don't change your mind because of a strange experience. To be generous is not easy in modern time . You can continue to be yourself trying to don't give more than what is balanced in the nature of the relationship.

  • Anya 2020.03.01 14:15

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    That looks like something I can do lol ( sarcasm ) I love complaining too.

  • Anya 2020.03.01 14:17

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    @ ꧁Carla ❀❀ Yes you are right. But I wonder why negative people drag you down. But positive people can't raise you up ( or rarely )

  • kaiano 2020.03.01 14:29

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    People are complicated , I try focusing on myself keep myself positive this way I can influence people , not advising them but just being a cheerful person

  • ꧁Carla ❀❀ 2020.03.01 14:37

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    @Anya Negative people do not seek to solve their problems, they seek the attention of other people to be able to feel important, dear, valued and a thousand other emotions, so they are a black hole of energy that has no limit.

  • Mariana Santos 2020.03.01 15:34

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    @ ꧁Carla ❀❀ exactly

  • Goober 2020.03.01 16:07

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    Everyone relax... negative people are reacting. We all have the same desire to achieve happiness. Just because someone says something negative doesn’t mean stay away from them. The point of this post was to say don’t let it bother you. You can’t control the world around you, but you can control your perception within your mind. LOVE

  • ꧁Carla ❀❀ 2020.03.01 16:14

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    @Goober I don't think we all seek to feel happy, each one seeks to meet their needs and there are people who constantly feel the need to feel sadness and pain; and on the other hand, I think that if we ask to decide with whom we want to relate and I think that it is up to you to move away from negative people from healthy self-esteem.

  • Goober 2020.03.01 16:16

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    @ ꧁Carla ❀❀ Honeslty, I think you’re negative hahaha.

  • ꧁Carla ❀❀ 2020.03.01 16:23

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    @Goober I am very reluctant to relate to this profile and have such conversations; and I explain my reasons and as you can read, there are many people who agree with me.😜😜😜

  • adriana 2020.03.01 16:25

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    I agree with you! I am master of my sea!

  • Goober 2020.03.01 16:31

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    @adriana Exactly! A boat floats on top of the water. There may be sharks and monsters below, waves that make you wobble, but you are competent and in control! You have to save yourself from sinking

  • C.V.P 2020.03.01 16:33

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    @Goober I understood nothing

  • Goober 2020.03.01 16:34

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    @C.V.P haha it’s a metaphor. Your mind is the boat, and the water is all of the people and places around you.

  • adriana 2020.03.01 16:43

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    @Goober yes, but on the way we can also find beauty, it’s not just about pain. but knowing how to walk between them. joy and pain!

  • C.V.P 2020.03.01 16:45

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    Wow! how much subject your comment gave, lol. Everyone philosophizing, hahaha

  • Ferdinandez 2020.03.01 17:29

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    @Goober dude I'm going through this recently. A lot of ppl look for me when they're in a bad place in life. I could have been a psychologist or something. The fact is, most of the time we can't really help them bc it's abt themselves, their perceptions and maybe only seeking a professional might help them (I encourage them for doing that). We can't avoid negative feelings from other ppl, but we can definitely try to not be affected by it. Always think positive bud. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  • Goober 2020.03.01 17:51

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    @Ferdinandez Very well said. Thank you

  • Anya 2020.03.01 19:01

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    @ ꧁Carla ❀❀ Hahaha I understand but I am just thinking how can we reverse the process.

  • ꧁Carla ❀❀ 2020.03.01 20:00

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    @Anya I try to develop more my emotional intelligence to be more decisive and positive, and to select my conversations and people.☺

  • Aldo 2020.03.01 20:40

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    @Goober bro that is happened to me many times. We need to check if our energy exchange is equal, if the person is not open to our energy, we will be drained as well as if they demand too much. If we listen, we are able to feel if the energy flow is going in the right direction or wasted. Secondly, we need to find why we want to save others, there are often many emotional needs/reasons behind that, and it's not only cause we are generous people. It is better to help when is really requested. In Italy we have a saying "God helps those who help themselves", or, "help yourself and God will help you too".

  • Aldo 2020.03.01 20:42

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    @Mariana Santos That's true. Complain is easier to change, sometimes that happens to me too, until I think clearly and say to myself, complaining never improved anything!

  • Aldo 2020.03.01 20:45

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    @Ferdinandez often, unfortunately, professional helpers can't do much also with this kind of people. Or when anyone is into this kind of thinking patterns (we all had times like that)

  • Nieves 2020.03.01 21:16

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    @Goober " You can’t control the world around you, but you can control your perception within your mind". That's the answer, all in this world is a self perception, the world is not white or black, it's always depends of our perception. People aren't negative or positive, people simply are who they are and we should never get carried away by how someone else acts, we just have to be who we are and give our best, because when we are who we are and give our best we are filling ourselves with positive energy and that is transmitted to others. We will always receive what we give and if not, let's not stop being who we are and keep giving love because it's the only thing worth living in life 😊

  • Mariana Santos 2020.03.01 22:37

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    @Aldo ahhh it's true.... It's easier to blame others for our "mistakes" and actually anyone has already done this at least once in their lives... Anyway we're just humans 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • Goober 2020.03.02 07:03

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