when I write my last post, a lot of people ask me why I can't
see (feeling safe ) is a mix between feeling comfortable and deep love..or maybe it could be the love itself??for me, I didn't see it that way ...so let me explain please the difference (in my opinion)
the baby can feel comfortable in his bed and can love his dad and mom and his cute pet ..but only when he hugs his mom he feel so safe and secure
the girl could love her family and feel so comfortable with her best friends ...but only his dad always be the only one she feels safe and secure with him and feel like no one can beat her when she walks with him
feel safe mean you know your partner would never give up on you and let you down as baby know his mom's hug will never let him down
safe is the last level in a relationship ..it comes after the highest level of like and deep love and the highest level of comfort and the highest level of trust and the highest level of understanding and acceptance for all your partner sides even the darkest side of it ...it's not mixed between these things ...it's just another level after them all..it the point when your relationship turend from someone i love and I want to spend my life with ...to someone is being home for you and you can't live your life without
That is why a relationship differs from a girl to a man ...The girl loves the person when she feels safe with him, and the man loves the girl when he feels that he want to protect her and be her security source, so when the girl makes him feel safe too, or when he gives up his (appreciation or pride or ego) and let his heart feel safe with her, that means this relationship would be unforgettable in the whole life. (And the opposite is true in some cases)
you could leave someone you love and move on even it's hard but it's impossible to leave home and move on because it's the only one who your soul feel peaceful with
safe .... when "home" went from being a place to being a person
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