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2020.06.04 13:33

Part 1: Some people want to know why don't I respond to private

messages. 有些人想知道 为什么我不回复私聊。

I have two reasons: 我有两个理由：

Except for other Americans or my Chinese friends in real life, if I have to spend 30 minutes to an hour helping one person, or spend the same 30 minutes to an hour helping many people, I'll always choose the latter.

除了其他的美国人或者我的现实生活中的中国朋友以外，如果我必须花30分钟到一小时帮助别人，我更愿意这30分钟到一小时同时帮助许多人而不是只帮助一个人，我总是这样选择的。

I just think it's better to correct a public post as opposed to respond to a private message, because, when I correct a public post, everyone can see the answer, but if I respond to a private message, only one person would see the answer.

我只是觉得纠正一个公开的帖子比回复一个私聊要好，因为，当我纠正一个公开的帖子时，每个人都能看到回复，但是如果我回复一个私聊，只有一个人会看到答案。
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  • Amy 2020.06.04 13:36

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    👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • Vicky大静 2020.06.04 13:36

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    I agree with you.

  • 阿强 2020.06.04 13:37

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    我一般都是不回人家的，看心情吧，你做的非常好。

  • 月聆重楼 2020.06.04 13:40

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    Why need reply every one？I don't agree this guy's opinion. courtesy depend on the situation. If in the real life. someone say hi to u. Yup. U need reply. This is courtesy. But online. I don't think so. And I think this guy is impolite. He need learn what is courtesy first.

  • Tom荡空山 2020.06.04 13:56

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    I understand and support you

  • Alice 2020.06.04 13:57

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    l agree with you.

  • Tom荡空山 2020.06.04 13:59

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    This sort of courtesy would exhaust you! You don’t have to respond anyone privately.

  • Lulu 2020.06.04 14:04

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    同意👍

  • Claire J. 2020.06.04 14:12

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    你在profile里写明了不回复的理由，这人是强盗逻辑，别理😎

  • 橙沙之味 2020.06.04 14:17

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    This is your choose,your free.

  • RootLu 2020.06.04 14:28

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    By reading this text, I know a lot of truths of life, and I learnd at least two English words:"profile and courtesy", thank you 大伟！

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.04 14:31

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    @Claire J. 强盗逻辑 (I love this phrase😎

  • Victor 2020.06.04 14:38

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    I am with you.

  • Alexey Donskoy 2020.06.04 14:58

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    Quite reasonable, particularly for a busy person!

  • Lorisgarden 2020.06.04 15:37

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    Yeah. Hope you could correct my posted if you have time. 😊

  • lee xinguang 2020.06.04 15:40

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    I'am with you

  • john 2020.06.04 17:12

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    your time, your property , your will.no one can steal it or rob it .道德是自我约束的，拿着去要求别人实现自己的利益是伪道德。

  • john 2020.06.04 17:21

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    这样的道德绑架还真不如强盗，人家好歹也投入了时间劳力承担了风险，而道德绑架者一点投资都没有净想着白拿还特别优越好像是他在教别人做人。

  • john 2020.06.04 17:25

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    This kind of moral kidnapping is really not as good as robbers, and people have also invested time and labor to take risks, and the moral kidnappers have not invested at all in thinking that Bai Na is particularly superior as if he is teaching others to be human.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.04 23:13

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    @RootLu you're welcome

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.04 23:15

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    @月聆重楼 666

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.04 23:16

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    @ yes, I'm vaguely familiar

  • bjygjkgdjfdnk 2020.06.04 23:23

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    If I were u, I'll just delete that stupid message and continue to be myself. ur voice is very nice, pleasant and energetic.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.05 01:30

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    @bjygjkgdjfdnk I just think she wanted to talk to me, but was frustrated that I don't answer messages

  • bjygjkgdjfdnk 2020.06.05 02:10

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    it's your right to answer or not. so many people message you, why should you answer everyone? that's a waste of time.

  • Fiona_ouyang 2020.06.05 02:56

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    老子说:上善若水。让更多的人学习才是硬道理😄

  • Tina 2020.06.05 03:57

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    I appreciate your point very much, which is quite correct

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.05 03:58

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    @Tina thanks

  • Baron 2020.06.05 05:10

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    @大伟作家 That makes sense and thank you for helping us!

  • Mandy 2020.06.05 05:27

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    回复是出于礼貌，但不是义务，太多的消息打扰生活的话，当然有权利选择不回复，他这样说真的是道德绑架了。

  • Lynn 2020.06.05 08:09

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    加油，做最好的自己👍

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 01:32

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    You choose to learn Chinese language but you violate Chinese Social norms. You have the freedom to do so and we respect your right. Yet deep inside, I feel your gesture really disgusting

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 01:33

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    @adam xu What are Chinese social norms?

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 01:35

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    @大伟作家 learn it by yourself

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 01:36

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    @adam xu You are learning English but you violate western social norms, but you want to criticize me but won't tell me what I'm doing wrong.

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 01:44

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    @大伟作家 You are free to despise me. I don't care as long as we don't see each other in person. And I have no obiligation to teach you anything. I hope you can understand

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 01:47

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    @adam xu But if you criticize my actions, should you at least tell me what did I do to make you feel disgusted?

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 01:57

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    @大伟作家 Can you please tell me what is western social norms with no more than 5 sentences? If you can't, do not ask me to do that. The only thing I can teach you is being modest and show some tolerance to other culture. People calling you 老师 are educated man. Some of them are much older than me and know what to do in Chinese culture.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 01:58

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    @adam xu I don't despise anyone, especially not strangers. If something that you don't like about me. That's okay.

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 02:01

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    @大伟作家 It's okay. I can understand

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:02

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    @adam xu In the West, we call people by their first name, no matter their age. The president at my old job was called Mike by everyone. Also, even in China, if you want to be friends with someone, you will call them by their name, not their job title.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:04

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    @adam xu If you and I meet in the future, and you help me, and I say thank you, you won't like that because we're friends.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:05

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    @adam xu Calling me teacher means you don't want to be friends, because friends don't do that.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:15

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    @adam xu I've been trying to learn Chinese for almost 6 years, and I've talked to more than 60 Chinese people, and no one ever called me teacher. Never, because they know my name is David. If you help me with Chinese, can I call you teacher?

  • adam xu 2020.06.06 02:19

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    @大伟作家 Friend, I can see you are a well educated man and you must have important business to handle in real life. Thank you for your patience and time. But again, if you really want to learn Chinese language and culture, try to be modest, show respection and never easily judge others and their actions. Thanks again and hope you can get a long way in your language learning journey

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:20

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    @adam xu Well, thanks for calling me a friend.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:22

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    @adam xu But if you go to a western country, you're going to call people by their name, even if they're older than you.

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 02:23

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    @adam xu Calling people by their name is the only thing we have to let people know that we're all equal.

  • Phoebe 2020.06.06 11:57

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    又不是和上级领导对话 在找里，面对陌生人， 回复或者不回复都是我们身为自由人的自由，这个人用道德伦理来说事真的会让人有点生气

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.06 12:31

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    @Jenny_P 发音不错

  • cy.Ghiang 2020.06.09 02:33

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    u are right!

  • colleenx 2020.06.10 14:31

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    我觉得那个人比较嚣张..

  • Nana 2020.06.15 07:01

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    大伟虽然profile很“嚣张”，但实际上他帮我改了至少3次英文句型，而且回复特别认真和专业，从这个角度来说，大伟是个好同学！

  • Susan 2020.06.18 06:54

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    @大伟作家 I agree with you!

  • Yy悦 2020.06.23 00:41

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    Part 1: Some people want to know why don't I respond to private messages.

    Part 1: Some people want to know why I don't respond to private messages. (I think this is correct grammarcally？🤣）

  • Yy悦 2020.06.23 00:43

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    除了其他的美国人或者我的现实生活中的中国朋友以外，如果我必须花30分钟到一小时帮助别人，我更愿意这30分钟到一小时同时帮助许多人而不是只帮助一个人，我总是这样选择的。

    除了其他的美国人或者我的现实生活中的中国朋友以外，如果我必须花30分钟到一小时帮助别人，我更愿意这30分钟到一小时同时帮助许多人而不是只帮助一个人。

  • 大伟作家 2020.06.23 03:51

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    @Yy悦 谢谢

  • heycrown 2020.06.24 16:57

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    Reading these comments, so funny 😁😁😁

  • 夏天 2020.06.28 03:00

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    @colleenx 崇洋媚外😏

  • 夏天 2020.06.28 03:01

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    @adam xu 👍👍👍👍

  • 夏天 2020.06.28 06:06

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    @colleenx 反省

  • Yuval Rundstedt Feng 2020.06.29 02:59

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    你好我认为我们可以给你发然后你统一在这里答复之类 反正你回不回是你的权利 不要为此动怒

  • Estelle 2020.07.05 02:57

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    大伟同学，你有权利不回复任何你不想回复的信息。

  • 带贵魚 2020.07.05 11:18

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    您真不错，还愿意解释一下，要按照我的脾气就是：帮你是情分，不帮你是本分，咱俩又不认识，我何必为了让自己看起来有教养而去附和别人，再说了，我的好只想留给我身边的人，我不认为有做错什么，说这种话的人应该好好反省自己。

  • 伪尺衍 2020.07.07 02:10

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    you aright

  • zhao 2020.07.07 07:13

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    I understand why you don't want to be called your teacher. If people treat you as a teacher. Sounds more like a tool for learning English. But you're not. You are a real person. but from the perspective of most Chinese, we call those experienced people teachers. So this is the way we respect you. In my opinion, we are equal. Language is just a way to communicate with others. You are native English, so you master English. I am proficient in Chinese and we can learn from each other, which does not mean that one person is better than another.

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 07:20

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    @zhao In my culture, the rich and the poor man, the boss and the employee, the smart and the dumb are called by the name their mother gave them. Respect is not what the stranger thinks it is. It's what I say it is. Because people who want to be your friend, will never call you teacher and it doesn't matter how much more you know.

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 07:31

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    @zhao I've had Chinese friends who were as young as 22 up to 45 and no one has ever called me teacher because they see as a friend. So I get to decide the kind of people I will talk to and I do not want to talk to people who see me as a teacher.

  • zhao 2020.07.07 07:36

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    @大伟作家 Yes, I see. There are always cultural differences in communication with people with different cultural backgrounds. So the next time I want to make friends with Westerners, I will pay attention to calling their names. I also hope that you will not be bothered by those who call you a teacher.

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 09:21

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    @zhao I just don't talk to them

  • zhao 2020.07.07 09:34

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    @大伟作家 what do you think of the name"大伟同学" in this picture?

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 09:36

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    @zhao It means 1) she read my profile and 2) decided to address me a different way.

  • zhao 2020.07.07 09:42

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    @大伟作家 Although she still calls you"大伟+job title", she won't make you feel disgusted, will she?

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 09:43

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    @zhao I don't get disgusted when people call me teacher. I just understand what they want

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 09:48

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    @zhao None of the Chinese teachers call me teacher. They just call me by my name. People who speak English know this. That's how I know if high school students can speak English. All the students who speak English very well, call me David. The students who can't speak English call me老师

  • zhao 2020.07.07 09:58

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    @大伟作家 ou just want to make friends in this app, not teach others English. You can help others correct their English mistakes. But you don't want to be a teacher who teaches them. Is my understanding right?

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 10:04

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    @zhao I don't use this app to make friends or to find language partners. Before I came to China, I already had several good friends here who I met when I first started teaching myself Chinese. I just use this app to share material and correct people's mistakes. I don't teach them. I just practice how to explain English in Chinese.

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 10:05

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    @zhao Sometimes people have tried to offer me money to teach them and I refuse. I'm not here to make money. I have a job.

  • zhao 2020.07.07 10:10

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    @大伟作家 Your job is not a teacher, you don't want to teach others. So you don't like being called "老师" Is my understanding right?

  • 大伟作家 2020.07.07 10:19

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    @zhao 我在美国担任会计师时 我利用休息时间，给中国人分享英语材料来帮助他们 自学英语。但是当特朗普当选总统时，我决定离开美国来中国，当时做外教老师让我申请签证。

  • Jerry4Real 2020.07.08 15:13

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    Thank u sir we all understand u!!

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